Heartbreak and link up

Hello wonderful friends

I first want to Thank all of you military ladies who helped get me through this deployment, your encouraging words were like sunshine on a rainy day.

I am sad to say that I am no longer dating my marine :(  2 days after getting back from the sand box we had a coffee date and he said he wanted to break up and go back to being friends.  This was definitely a shock to me but I also know he was doing this for our best.  He is going into a special thing for the Marines and it has restrictions such as he can't be married ect... he will be out of the country for the next 3 years. :(   so he made a hard choice ( he knew I would have waited 3 years). We are still best friends and we talk often but the whole dating thing is on hold. We both are holding it with an open hand knowing that our paths may never come together again as a couple. We are trusting God and believing that if we are meant to be it will happen.

My military blog will be left alone for the time being..
I have a personal blog that you all may follow if you would like here's the link
http://2strongandbeautiful.blogspot.com/



Here is my song...




God bless and Semper FI !!

Amber joy 

Home Coming Jitters and A Link up

Hello my wonderful Friends !

 I am back ... my Life kind of DEMANDED  /suggested I take a break from the bloggy world and work really hard at my new job (been doing great with that) Have my car engine BLOW !! aka dead aka I"m really in trouble, ( No worries God is AMAZING  He provided a new engine for a great price).

Now I am at the point where my savings say 0000000 ( thats a lot of ZERO's if you couldn't tell) ;) and my Bills list is HUGE !!  so I'm at a point where I need to save EVERY penny to be able to have enough money for my 12 hour drive to see my man come home !!  Note: I HAD a great lil "travel savings envelope with $400 dollars in it.. BUT this thing called buying a new engine for my car made that envelope go from LOTS to 000000 ( more zero's ) lol . so thats my life the last month or so in a nutshell. More to come I'm sure these next few weeks are going to be pretty INTENSE !... ......... Here goes everything!!!

ALSO.......................................................................

I am going crazy I can't focus on anything and yet I have a ZILLION things to get done, deployment number 2 is nearly done and I am BEYOND excited.  I finally got my homecoming sign that I had custom made, which of course made me even MORE excited about homecoming!!....AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH   ok I'm really... I"m  fine .. fewf.... wow I made it !!! I am really proud of myself !! but I couldn't have done it without my support system. (aka  God, my family, close friends and my blog) YAY for support !!!!

Does anyone else get these jitters ? I hope I'm not the only one ...  anyway I'm going completely bonkers and making TONS of lists... yeah I'm a list girl everything I do/ plan usually ends up on a list. :) its how I keep my sanity .. haha

On a sad note I missed a LONG awaited phone call from my man by 23 minutes !! I haven't talked to my love in over 3 weeks !!!  I'm sure you can guess that I cried all the way home from work :(
anyway.... time marches on.. WHOA .. speaking of time I got to get going .... See ya later folks !! I'm off to get this list done ..

PS. I'll definitely have some GREAT pictures of homecoming soon !!


Semper FI !!!!!

Amber joy


oh yeah almost forgot ! my song ! Love me some Blake Shelton ! and of course his latest song Honey Bee !!

ENJOY !!!

  

GOOD MORNING ~~

I found this "USMC handbook" on a friends blog and thought I'd share. as well as our WONDERFULLY fun link up with goodnight-moon Check out her blog to get in on the fun.

USMC Girlfriend Handbook

I added a few "opinions" (they are in Blue)

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1. Don’t count on anything, hurry up and wait!

2. Don’t listen to ANYONE on the outside. All you will get is negative remarks, which will make things harder for you to deal with.

3.When he becomes stubborn and a royal pain in the butt, just remind yourself he’s probably had a bad day, and being away from you is hard on him too. So just let him rant and don’t take it personal.

4. When you’re down, treat yourself.

5. Learn how to listen if you don’t know how! He will need you, you will be the one he comes to when he needs to complain, but don’t complain back…that is what the USMC Girlfriends/Fiancées/ Wife’s are for! This is a hard time for our men and they NEED us much more than sometimes they think they do!

6. Love your Marine, be truthful, and reassure him, even if he is deployed he’ll have someone to come back too!

7. He will try to pull away at some point. Whether directly telling you to move on, not wait for him or just becoming distant. It’s a way they try of dealing, stick with him cause he really does want (and need) you there.

8. When he is away for a long time, or even just a couple hours away, write a lot of letters! Communication is key to a relationship.

9. Some of his friends will probably be morons – expect this. (lol)

10.You aren't the only woman in his life (his mom misses and loves him too!) so make sure she is updated on what is going on with him.

11. He needs to feel important so don’t hold back on the compliments – remind him how proud you are of what he does.

12. Chances are they won’t call when they say they will (that especially applies for deployed!)
(no sh*t, Sherlock!)

13. Don’t buy that nonrefundable airplane ticket too early.

14. When eating with a Marine you either finish your “chow” in 15 minutes or less or be stared at until you are finished, (or he will just "help" you finish it. :)

15. Never take one single minute with them for granted. Live each day with them like it’s the last one you’ll have for a while, because with the Marine Corps, it just might be!

16. Take lots of pictures, so you can remember what each other looks like! ( I have pictures of him EVERYWHERE)

17. Don’t even TRY to compare your Marine to ordinary men. You can no longer complain about broken plans, that phone call you were supposed to get but didn't, missed birthdays and anniversaries, his snoring (hey, at least he’s sleeping BESIDE you), spending more time with “the boys” than you,etc., etc., etc…

18. Always look on the bright side of things. How many of your gal-pals get their first encounter, first date, first kiss from their men over and over again?? (This is definitely true...I love those firsts.. and 2nds and 3rds... ;) !)

19. Gotta be able to keep up with your man! We give our Marines a whole new meaning of PT (hmm ya got that right ;).. hehe)

20. Even if he says he will, he probably won’t. Maybe he really means probably not OR probably not when he said he would (example: “I might be able to call you tomorrow” but he can’t find the time to call until a week later or “I might be able to come home next month for a week”…that might turn into 2 weeks)

21. Being a Marine’s girlfriend/fiancée is the toughest job in the corps. You have to deal with STRESS similar to the wives, WITHOUT the promise of forever or the benefits and support they get.

22. We find ourselves using military lingo. “I’m gonna go get my room squared away”, “It’s chow time”, or using military time. ..(lol this is so true.. I've been saying watching my six a a lot lately and also butt hurt...lol...I haven't picked up on the swearing yet thankfully ;)

23. Patience is the biggest key to making the relationship work…you have to wait a lot but in the end, waiting is what made it all worthwhile! ( I don't like waiting at ALL as a general thing but I will wait forever to be with my marine!!)

24. Always remember…Semper Fi! (OORAH BABY!)
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I hope you enjoyed I know most of you are wives now but you once were a Girlfriend so I know you can relate.
Also found a fun song called " Who Says" I love it because it reminds me that I need to believe in myself.
I AM smart and beautiful and the one person getting in the way of my success is my own fear and disbelief in my talents and abilities. I will overcome my self doubt and I will succeed in my goals and aspirations so Help me GOD !!.. no really I need God's help with this one.


SEMPER FI, Amber joy

Goodnight Moon Link Up: wk 10 and A TROUBLEMAKER

 Let me first say I am not a typical student, I have been called the "trouble maker" by more than one of my professors. I don't understand why they say that... maybe I really am a trouble maker huh ?? ... Anyway I have a great story of me getting myself into trouble. I am in a 1 credit Phys Ed class. My professor is somewhat of an overload her students for fun kinda a lady. Let me give you some specs on her class first off its a 6 week class and she has assigned 3 papers two 1500 word minimum papers and one 2500 ( yes thats right two THOUSAND five hundred) minimum paper. Lets take a look at this for a sec, that is 7 and 5 PAGES !! for a ONE CREDIT course.

Ok now that I have clarified the insanity of the work load let me go on to the trouble maker part.
I decided that this was to much work for a one credit class so I typed up a petition and got 6 of my fellow classmates to sign it. They all thought I was the smartest and  craziest person on the planet. haha... after I got the signatures I made a copy for my records and proceeded to put the original in an envelope and dropped it off with her secretary.

Next class period I had butterflies.  I didn't know how she was going to react to it. In the petition I stated that her expectations were out of proportion and that we as a class wanted the word count for the rest of the semester to be reduced to 900 word minimum.
She comes in and says "I have something to say class".. (my heart went into my stomach and my academic life flashed before my eyes...lol)  Then she said "in case some of you didn't know this .. some of your classmates made a petition to have the word minimum reduced from 2500 to 900... I just want to say that I am proud of them"...( I was like WHAT ??... proud?? that wasn't what I was expecting..lol)

 She then says "I don't completely agree with the petition but I have decided to grant your request and even better I'm going to one up you .. I am going to make your last paper only 500 word minimum requirement" ( I was like WHAT ! and nearly fell out of my chair from shock !! The last thing she said was " I've been teaching  over 17 years and I have NEVER had a student challenge me or my requirements"  I was like thats because you  never met ME !! I was the first and It felt pretty good to challenge someone and WIN .. I think I might be addicted !..lol  there were High Fives all around in the hallway my classmates said I was awesome.

The moral of the story don't be scared to challenge something ! you never know what will happen.  Think outside the box, go against the grain every now and then.. or even better all the time like me ! you will never have a dull moment in life. !!
Semper Fi, Amber Joy

JOIN THE FUN !!  Awesome link up !!


As for my song Its been raining with LOTS of thunder and lightning and FLOODING in my town which is completely crazy and I've been missing my man like crazy!!  Soooo I though it appropriate  that I play Naturally by selena gomez  ENJOY .. and sorry about the long post .. if you read the whole thing you should get a prize !!

Goodnight Moon Link Up: wk 9 and a Lil braggin' about my man.

Good morning Friends ! I hope you are having an AMAZING day. My week has been pretty amazing. My wonderful man called me 2 nights ago and we talked for over 30 minutes.

          I need to just brag about my man for a little bit. He is the perfect man for me ! If God gave me the "tools" to create a man I couldn't have created a more perfect man than the one I have. He can tell when I need him to just say "I love you". He is gentle and strong at the same time. He is selfless and is always ready to help ANYONE if they need it. He is a wonderful teacher and is very patient with me (I have lots to learn about having a healthy relationship). He's a great communicator and he is loyal. He is going to make an amazing husband and father someday. He is my Hero, my love, my better half. and quite frankly I MISS HIM TONS !!!
 What about YOU?? Tell me 3 things you love about your man !!

Semper Fi, Amber joy

About the Song

I don't remember where we were but the song "She's everything" by Brad Paisley came on and my man looked over at me and said "every time I hear this song I think of you"  I LOVE that he's romantic cause I'm not real good at it.  ENJOY ~!

Goodnight Moon Link Up: wk 8 and Lots of tears

Let me tell you I have been really proud of myself for taking this deployment so well and not having a pity party or complaining hardly at all.(other than a few I miss him tons moments.) I have done great, this week wasn't so great, have you ever gone strong for so long and then at some point you feel as though you just hit a brick wall ??
  
        Well that moment happened this week, I broke down hard, I have hit an all time low emotionally and all I can say is "I just want him HOME".  I'm trying to be strong but it seems every time he comes to mind tears arrive like clockwork shortly after. EVERY song in the world seems to make me cry and cry. Now mind you I am NOT a crier so this whole emotional stuff is kind of new.  I have never been this emotional !! Every little detail reminds me of my man. I can't seem to focus at all and its not even PMS .. what gives here... I have exactly 4 weeks left of school and I'm trying to focus but I can't.  I don't know what else to say other than I miss my man more than words can say and I can't stop crying.

         My song of course is a sad one and I'm crying as I listen to it... sorry for having a sad post but I figure you all understand... we all have our moments .. and this is mine
Semper Fi, Amber joy

PS. and I also missed a call from my man.... he was down and wanted to hear my voice and I was in class :(

Link-Ups and Life

WELCOME new comers and old friends alike to my blog 

I have a story that just happened to me and I want to tell you all about it.

I was sitting in the main lounge area doing some much needed chill time and homework.

As I came into the main lounge I noticed a group setting up a event it was something about suicide awareness, .. well they had some artwork displayed and one piece was offensive to me and this is what it was.
It was an orange sky background and a silhouette of a military man.  and the quote said

 "I have already decided how I'm going to kill myself if my husband doesn't come back from iraq and he doesn't leave for another 2 months."

ok so I of course saw this as an insult to all military spouses. I also thought it portrayed us women as people who already decide to kill ourselves when our men leave on deployment, I just think it gave military spouses a bad rap.  So I complained and the man in charge was very understanding when I said I would write up a complaint to my school if necessary  he promptly took the artwork down, he did not want to get tangled up with a marines girl I glad he was smart and new what was good for him. :) What do YOU think ? was I over reacting ? I was very respectful in my approach but sometimes I think I take things to seriously especially when its about military.  Living in a state that doesn't support its military much is not a easy place to live.

On to more happy news.... very excited to be apart of 2 link ups again this week. 1 from Flipflops and Combat boots and  1 from Goodnight Moon hope you enjoy 

and WELCOME to my blog world !!!

Delightful

Happy

Superb

Gorgeous

Loved

It is SO Delightful that spring is just around the corner BUT the weather man has given me yucky news aka a BIG snow story headed my way... snow snow.. goo away ....

I am so Happy that there is only 6 weeks of school left.. YAY !! 

I think greek yogurt is Superb I love to eat it with a little bit of granola and fruit try it yourself. 

Gorgeous is the first words out of my mans mouth when he called me this week and it made my day that much more amazing. 

I feel Loved  times a million because I got to talk to my love for a whole HOUR the other day and I have been smiling ever since. 

and Don't forget Goodnight Moons AMAZING link up
I have had SO much fun with this link up Great idea Amber. !!
I heard this song and it caught my ear ... can you tell I've got certain THINGS on my mind ;)

Semper Fi, Amber joy

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Goodnight Moon Link Up: week 2

Welcome to my blog, Amber over at goodnight moon is doing this cool song link up thing, I think it is a GREAT Idea and can't wait to listen to all the other songs on  blogs I follow and maybe make some new friends.

I have had a hard week in general and its not even over yet. I have been missing my man tons and trying to stay focused on my classes but it seems I can't. I sometimes go through a time where I feel alone out here and don't think any one understands the whole "being with a military man thing". I started a blog randomly and found some AMAZING support through all these other wonderful ladies blogs who are imagine! going through the same or similar stuff as me.
I just want to thank you ladies for giving support and putting yourself out there, so that girls like me (brand new to Marine corp girlfriend life) can be encouraged.
Semper Fi Amber joy


This song makes me think of my man and miss him cause we would listen to music together all the time, I had this as a text tone while my man was stateside and when he text me it played, now that I hear it I feel sad because he can't text me.